Ok, grooms, this post is for you! Today, it’s Luke writing, and I wanted to take some time to write about why I would recommend first looks and relate it to the guys’ perspective. I understand that your soon-to-be wife plans a lot of what happens on your wedding day out. But, one thing I believe you and your fiancé should really talk about is doing a first look. That being said, I understand not wanting to do a first look, and to tell you the truth, I didn’t change my mind about wanting to do one until a couple weeks before our wedding. Here are the three reasons that made me change my mind.
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1.You get to spend more time together on your wedding day.
You only get married once, which means that you only have one wedding day experience to go through with your fiancé. I looked at our first look as a way to spend so much more of the day with my best friend. Instead of waiting until the ceremony starts to get to hang out with your best friend, you can start that 3 hours before the ceremony. It just made sense from my perspective. I know there is tradition associated with waiting, and that is totally fine, but I didn’t value tradition as much as I valued spending time with Caitlin on one of the best days of our life.
2. It helps with the jitters.
I am normally someone who can handle being in front of people perfectly fine. Well, on my wedding day, I was a ball of nerves. I think at one point I was thinking we could run away and find a boat captain to marry us like Jim and Pam in the office. It helped me a lot when I was able to just see Caitlin. Plus, as a guy, we always have to act tough so we don’t let the girls know anything’s wrong, right?
3.You get some PEACE on your wedding day.
For all the people who have lived through a wedding day to tell the tale (which I hope is everyone reading this), they can attest that a wedding day goes by SO fast. What is awesome about a first look is that for 15 minutes (which doesn’t seem like much, but I promise you… IT IS), you can just be you with your fiancé. It’s a break from everyone wanting a picture, asking you if you’re nervous, or just wanting to talk. It is a peaceful time that you and your almost wife can share. It’s time that you can be yourselves and just react without any expectations.
If I could sum it all up of this, this is what I would say…
I know when my wedding was coming up, it was debated on whether I would cry or not. Of course, I was the guy saying I wasn’t going to cry because I’M A MAN, I’m tough and I eat bacon. Of course I wouldn’t cry.
Well. I did. The second time I saw her, when she was walking down the aisle, it was different to me. It was real. I was actually marrying the girl of my dreams, and all those days of waiting had finally been worth it. Having the opportunity to do a first look takes all of those expectations off of you because no one will be there with a video camera making sure there was proof that you cried or not… unless you hire a videographer, of course. 🙂 My point is that a first look gives you a chance to react without any expectations and have a moment of peace before the crazy of the day takes over.
I hope this at least helps you understand why I choose to do the first look, and I hope it also gives you the chance to really talk it over before your big day comes. I don’t care which option you guys choose; what really matters is that from your wedding day on, you get to spend the rest of your life with your best friend!
